Yes I have been incognito for a very long while and I am ashamed. To be honest, what with a new school, new curriculum and Highers just begun I haven’t had much of a chance to even breathe. Staring a new chapter is an incredibly difficult thing.For anyone. And I don’t think we ever really prepare ourselves for a huge move even days before it’s planned. Because,talking about and discussing this move seems as though you’ve thought it out properly and you’ll be able to handle and everything’s peachy keen but the actual fact is that actually going through with the change and a couple of months into it is when it really begins to kick in. Starting a new chapter is more like writing a new book, different characters, a whole different path being paved and nobody will know you.
Anyone who’s had to start a new school midway through the years knows how difficult of a transition it can be at first. You can be whoever you want to be but who is that? Will you mix into the sporty group, the arty group or maybe science? The best way to probably start a new school is to just do a bit of everything. Maybe you absolutely despised drama before but why not just go along to the school show? You might actually enjoy it and you might actually make some new friends.
Or even those who have recently started uni, you might be one of the few who were lucky to have your friends go to the same uni as you. If you’re not one of those people don’t be disheartened but think of it as an opportunity to expand your social skills, broaden your horizons with different personalities.
What does a friend mean to you? At the end of your high school, primary school or even uni you look back on your experience and your friends. You want to look back and think to yourself how glad you were to have made those friends, not ‘oh she was always a bit rude I don’t know why I was friends with her.’ When your at school many people often desire to be seen with a large group of friends to seem’popular’ but it’s only as you begin to grow up you realise the significance of one true friend in comparison to five ‘friends.’
Any anyway making friends always takes time. Maybe you’ll be lucky to meet someone your’re really fond of on your first day but most of the time you should observe for a few days, maybe weeks and see which social circles you’d be most likely to fit into and get on with well.Don’t just stick to the first person who says hi to you because you might end up not having much in common with them and not get on as well with them as you thought you did. Remember they’ll be shy too, sometimes you should just go and approach them. But never pretend to be someone you’re not just to join a certain social group. People often say; show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.
This is probably a bit of a late post considering most of us are two or three months into the school year, but for anyone who might be having a difficult time, just consider it. Look for something new, something different to do. Explore different aspects of life you never knew existed. Don’t give up at the first hurdle and if you don’t like something you don’t have to keep doing just do what makes you happy.
Love S x
‘Good friends, good books and a sleepy conscience; this is the ideal life.’ – Mark Twain